No, untrue. And therein belies the insufficiency of the type of approach — psycho-sociological — to racism you are proposing.
For example, nobody controls language, and it is not anarchic. On the contrary, language is a rule-bound system that most speakers do not know much about. People use what they can of language, but they do not control it. To think people do control language is a paranoiac and inevitably guilt-ridden endeavor.
No doubt, some still think people can control language: for example, the Academie Française sends out public notifications to warn people of what they should and should not say (usually Anglicisms) in the French language. In the end, however, these words get said anyway, not simply anarchically, but in literature, jargon, slang, etc.
Moral of the story: there are systems and -isms in which people are not in control that are not anarchic. What should be analyzed and put out of commission are not racist people, but racist systems (if one concentrates on the former,i.e., ‘those in power’, the places are merely filled by others). There is no one group in control of the French language, even if there are some ridiculous looking, supposedly honest, white people heading the Academy. Further still, to mistake how the game works, for the players of the game, results in a kind of paranoia and guilt that debilitates anyone attempting to work seriously on the subject of language or racism (imagine if I were a writer trying to write a poem and every time I tried to do so I thought there were a group of old white people hanging over my shoulders in an Academy somewhere).
To get out of such dead-ends, it does not suffice to say ‘oh, I am black’ or ‘white’ and must now pay for my sins; or my forefathers were racist now I must be a good girl today. On the contrary, thinking people are the primary agents of racism and trying to make people assume responsibility for the self as the primary way to stop racism, is as absurd as trying to change language by asking people to speak differently. It is only a relative responsibility that becomes at best, a bandaid, at worst, mere occasions for people to relieve a guilty conscience.
Some people may be ok with band-aids and therapeutic guilt relief posing as effective anti-racism, I am not. How to treat the cause and not manage the effects of racism?
To take responsibility for a racist system requires a more absolute responsibility and a less guilty conscience than what you seem to offer in this brief chat. No doubt, we could probably not anticipate much more than misunderstanding in such quick exchanges, but I have written on this more absolute responsibility here, should things become more serious.
In any case, best of luck to you,
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